Monday, February 11, 2008

soulmates...

Love at first sight...being comfortable with a person even if you have met that person for the first time...finding a friend who completes your sentences...what do you call all these incidents?

All of us have come across someone or the other and often more than one person, whom we seem to have known forever. It usually happens between companions who have the perfect tuning. Or even people who have been friends for long. At times it may so happen that you did not actively keep in touch with a friend by making regular calls or meeting up as often as you would have liked. But suppose you talk to that friend after a long gap or better still, you happen to meet up, even after a gap of years, you can quite easily start from wherever you had left off. It makes you feel as if your souls had been connected all along, at a level much beyond the physical.

Often you may have noticed that certain people crop up in your life whenever a particular kind of incident happens. For instance, you may keep getting back in touch with a friend when you need someone to talk to during a difficult time in your life. That friend appears in your life (even if you have not been in touch for years) - the friend lends you a shoulder to cry on, gives helpful advice and once the situation has been resolved, you lose touch again, seemingly in a completely explainable manner...but is it? the surprising coincidence is when that friend makes a re-appearance again - once more, when you are having a bad time!!! It may also be possible that YOU are that friend in someone's life.

Some relationships happen only to teach you a valuable lesson and once that lesson is learned, the relationship ends. that explains why you get so affected by a person who fleetingly appears in your life only to disappear in a similar manner. But some connections are for a lifetime which are sustained in spite of the odds against it. People in such relationships are soulmates in the true sense.

Soulmates have always existed in our circle - in every birth that we have taken our soulmates have been with us in some form or the other. A mother could have been a child whereas a husband could have been a sibling. Take a look around and see the people who matter to you. I mean really SEE them. Analyze the relationship that you have with them. Are you playing the mother to a friend? Is your husband filling in the gap of a father? Once you have really seen your relationships closely you will recognize your soulmate/soulmates! it will not only help you know them better but perhaps also help you understand each and every person's action and reaction and importance in your life. So long, till then - happy searching!

6 comments:

arpita9 said...

Well penned down thought ranjini...well this is something that I have always believed in...u meet a person just to learn a lesson in ur life...every step that we take with each person is a step ahead in life, i am still searching for the people who are yet to come to my life to make my world complete.....happy searching as u said

Ayesha said...

I have often wondered why some people enter our life, stay for sometime and out of the blue vanish. The vanishing part can be due to not being in touch for a long time or may be that person is no more. But this thing has also fascinated me a lot.....when you sit and analyse your life you are bound to come across instances and people who have been with you for some time....perhaps it was during a time when you were enjoying a very happy phase of your life or may be things were not too good at that time. On close anlysis you will find that that person had certain role to play in your life and that is why they come to your life in certain forms.....parents, siblings, friends, partners,colleague, spouse it can be in any form. Mind you you may not find this out immediately, in fact this can take ages, but you will know why that person was part of your life at certain point of time and when this role is over he or she just goes away. And ya Ranjini as you said may be you happen to run into a particulr person when you are going through a rough patch time and again even though you may not be in regular touch with each other. Perhaps that person's role is just to help you weather those rough patches!!!

I was having a talk about this with one of my friend and she was wondering why a certin guy had come to her life as nothing had happened after they met and stuff like that. They just went to pizza hut 2 or 3 times, and oh! yes i was also with them too. So I told her perhaps that person's role in our life was to treat us to pizza's and for us to develop an aversion to pizzas!!!!

I have met many peole in life...with some I instantly feel a conncetion, instantly dislike some of them....but later change my opinion after I get to know them well and for some people i do not feel anything. But let me tell you all of them have made some or the other kind of difference in my life....both bad and good!!!!

Piyush said...

Nice article!
about love at first sight and all those relation about which we never know at what point they got their definitionsI,think there is something wavefunction related to everyone-when we meet someone with a similar wavefunction -there is something resonance take place-and we start feeling like we are meeting now but we have been atteched to that person for almost every second we lived
on a lighter note-I had recently came across an amazing shortstory "true love" by Asimov .its a science fiction and its concept made extended use of concpet of "true love"..I suggest reading it!
(u can ask me for story)

aditi said...

Your writing just gets better, you are good with this Jini. Now you read so smooth, like a river in plains, no boulders, no plunges...
Have you read Many Lives Many Masters? the doctrine of soulmates cutting across lives is testified in that book.
Many deep loves outside social sanctions, I believe, are a result of soulmates transcending births, without any defined bond in their current one.

aditi said...

Your writing just gets better, you are good with this Jini. Now you read so smooth, like a river in plains, no boulders, no plunges...
Have you read Many Lives Many Masters? the doctrine of soulmates cutting across lives is testified in that book.
Many deep loves outside social sanctions, I believe, are a result of soulmates transcending births, without any defined bond in their current one.

papia said...

Ranjini its put in words beautifully, but these days busy schedules keep people with no time or patience to even give it a thought of understanding the other person